Old as Methuselah. Old as the hills. Old chestnut. Old lang syne - see auld lang syne. On a hiding to nothing. On a wing and a prayer. On Carey Street. On cloud nine. On queer street. On tenterhooks. On the bubble. On the button. On the fiddle. On the pig's back. On the shoulders of. オールドファッション/back number(バックナンバー)の歌詞ページです。back numberがニューシングル「オールドファッション」を11月21日にリリースすることが決定した。ドラマ「大恋愛~僕を忘れる君と」主題歌 (作詞:清水依与吏 作曲:清水依与吏).
Love is great when spoken, but greatest when shown. Do little things daily to show your loved ones you care.Yesterday afternoon I was sitting on a park bench eating a sandwich for lunch when an elderly couple pulled their car up under a nearby oak tree. They rolled down the windows and turned up some funky jazz music on the car stereo. Then the man got out of the car, walked around to the passenger side, opened the door for the woman, took her hand and helped her out of her seat, guided her about ten feet away from the car, and they slow danced to a song under the oak tree.It was such a beautiful moment to witness.This morning when I opened my laptop to write, the elderly couple immediately came to mind, and I spent a few minutes daydreaming about them, wondering how long they had been together and what their best relationship advice would be.
And just as I caught my mind wandering even farther off, a new email from a reader named Cory popped up. The subject of the email was a question: “Any good, old-fashioned advice for a struggling relationship?”The synchronicity of my daydreaming and Cory’s question made me smile.So in honor of that beautiful elderly couple, and in service of Cory’s present relationship situation, here are eleven old fashioned habits we need to bring back into our relationships: 1.
Spend quality time together with no major agenda and no technology.Put down the smart phone, close the laptop and enjoy each other’s company, face to face, the old fashioned way.There are few joys in life that equal a good conversation, a genuine laugh, a long walk, a friendly dance, or a big hug shared by two people who care about each other. Sometimes the most ordinary things can be made extraordinary just by doing them with the right people. So choose to be around these people, and choose to make the most of your time together.Don’t wait to make big plans. Make your time together the plan.
Communicate openly on a regular basis. Get together in the flesh as often as possible. Not because it’s convenient to do so, but because you know each other are worth the extra effort. Be fully present when you’re in the presence of others.One of the best feelings in the world is knowing your presence and absence both mean something to someone. And the only way to let your loved ones know this, is to show them when you’re with them.In your relationships and interactions with others, nothing you can give is more appreciated than your sincere, focused attention – your full presence. Being with someone, listening without a clock and without anticipation of the next event is the ultimate compliment. It is indeed the most valued gesture you can make to another human being.Your friends and family are too beautiful to ignore.
So give them the gift of YOU – your time, undivided attention and kindness. That’s better than any other gift, it won’t break or get lost, and will always be remembered.
Express your sincere appreciation for loved ones every chance you get.No matter how sure you are of someone’s appreciation and admiration, it’s always nice to be reminded of it. So if you appreciate someone today, tell them. Just because they are reliable and there when you need them, doesn’t mean you should fail to give thanks and appreciation on a regular basis. To value someone too lightly is to risk missing the depth of their goodness before they’re gone.Sadly, it is often only when we are tragically reminded of how short life is – that today could easily be our last with someone we love – that we start to appreciate every day we have together as if it were. Let this lesson sink in now.
Don’t wait until it’s too late to tell the people you love how much you appreciate them. Work together and help each other grow.There is no soul mate or best friend out there who will solve all your problems. There is no love at first sight that lasts without work and commitment. But there are, however, people out there worth fighting for.
Not because they’re perfect, but because they’re imperfect in all the ways that are right for you. You compliment each other’s flaws in a way that allows your souls to unite and operate more efficiently as one.You will know when you meet one of these people, when through them. Focus on inner beauty.When you get to really know someone, most of their prominent physical characteristics vanish in your mind. You begin to dwell in their energy, recognize their scent, and appreciate their wit. You see only the essence of the person, not the shell.That’s why you can’t fall in love with physical beauty. You can lust after it, be infatuated by it, or want to own it. You can love it with your eyes and your body for a little while, but not your heart in the long-term.
Thus, when you really connect with a person’s inner self, most physical imperfections become irrelevant. Windows has recovered from an unexpected shutdown. Tell the truth.Too many prefer gentle lies to hard truths. But make no mistake, in the end it’s better to be hurt by the truth than comforted by a lie. Relationships based on lies always die young.Lying is a cumulative process too. So be careful. What starts as a small, seemingly innocent lie (possibly even with the intention of not hurting anyone) quickly spirals into an mounting false reality where the biggest factor preventing you from sharing the truth is the unwanted reputation of being known as a liar.
We lie to one another, but even more so we lie to ourselves most often to protect our “oh so fragile” ego. We may even be inclined to lie to ourselves while reading this, not wanting to admit how often we have eluded the truth. Apologize when you know you should.Take personal responsibility for your wrong doings. If you know your actions or words have hurt someone you care about, immediately admit your faults and face the reality of your actions. An apology is the super glue of lasting relationships.And make sure your apology is sincere too. Say it and mean it. Don’t bother apologizing if you’re just going to continue doing the things you said sorry for.
Never ruin an apology with an excuse. Excuses are NOT apologies.
Work out your relationship issues with each other, not with others.This may seem obvious, but these days it’s worth mentioning: NEVER post negatively about a loved one on social media. Fourteen-year-old school kids post negatively about their boyfriends, girlfriends and friends on social media.
It’s a catty way to get attention and vent, when the emotionally healthy response is to talk your grievances over with them directly when the time is right.Don’t fall into the trap of getting others on your side, because healthy relationships only have one side.Furthermore, relationships don’t always make sense, especially from the outside. So don’t let outsiders run your relationships for you. If you’re having a relationship issue with someone, work it out with THEM and no one else.
(Angel and I discuss this in detail in the “Relationships” chapter of.) 9. Be a force for positivity and encouragement.Elevate your inner game. A negative attitude is way below your horizon.Our way of thinking creates good or bad outcomes. It makes a big difference in your life and the lives around you when you stay positive.
So be fanatically positive and militantly optimistic. If something is not to your liking, change your liking and carry on with smile. Always and move forward.Encourage the best possible results with your thoughts and words. And teach this philosophy to those around you too. Over-deliver on your promises.Be committed.
Commitment means staying devoted and keeping your promises, long after the time and mood you made the promises in has left you. Doing so is vital to your relationships and long-term success in every imaginable walk of life.So don’t just say it, show it. Don’t just promise it, prove it.
Better yet, over-deliver on all your promises. Supply far more than what’s required. As Anne Frank once said, “No one has ever become poor by giving.” Whenever you can, go out of your way and do something nice and unexpected for the people in your life, especially those who are in no position to repay you anytime soon. Be loyal.Stand by those you care about in their darkest moments, not because you want to stand in the dark, but because you don’t want them to either. Brave the shadows alongside them until they’re able to find the light. On the flipside, stand by these same people on their sunniest days, not because you want to scorch your skin, but because you’re not afraid to let them shine bright.In other words, be loyal.
Remaining faithful in your relationships is never an option, but a priority. Loyalty means the world to the people who love you. When someone believes in you enough to lift you up, try not to let them down.
You can’t promise to be there for someone for the rest of their life, but you can sincerely be there for them for the rest of yours. The floor is yoursWhat are some good, old-fashioned habits that have helped strengthen your relationships?
Leave a comment below and share your thoughts.Photo. Before we got married, I tried to ask as many people as I knew who had been happily married for a long time, what advice could they give to newlyweds. The answer that impressed me the most was from a family friend named Leon:“Treat each other every day like you are trying to get her/him to marry you.”Simple, easy to remember, sometimes hard to do 🙂Next month we will celebrate our 31st anniversary. In 33 years we hope to reach the milestone that Leon and his wife shared.
Whenever I thought our marriage was going through a rough spot, the reason was usually that one (me) or both of us had temporarily forgotten that advice.
As you could probably guess by the sheer fact that I’m running an internet blog, I have absolutely no problem in embracing some technologies. A lot of the technological advances that we have made in the last century have been for the better, and I absolutely love having a car, basic medicine and even the convenience of the internet.However, there are some things that I think will always be better when done the old fashioned way. Here is my list of things you should always do the more traditional way, whether or not there’s a more modern and convenient method available: 1.
Send snail-mail cards and lettersThere’s just something awesome about getting a hand-written card or letter that you can hold. Not only is it a nice break from all of the bills and sales flyers, but I love going back through my old letters and seeing a snapshot of my life and relationships from way back when! Read real booksWhile e-readers are convenient and have made entire libraries available to people who normally wouldn’t read, it just isn’t the same as a real book you can hold in your hands. Maybe it’s my bibliophile talking, but nothing will replace the smell of books and the feel of flipping through the pages of an old friend. Write/Print RecipesWhether you’re into recipe cards or making your own recipe book, having a hard copy of a recipe is easily ten times more convenient than trying to search for a recipe on Pinterest that you made that one time. And don’t even get me started on trying to unlock a phone with goop or flour on your hands so you can see how much salt to add.
Also, as a bonus, you can make yourself notes in the margins for the next time. Hang wall calendarsI use my smartphone calendar for reference on the go, but having a wall calendar is so much easier. In fact, I have one at home and at work. With a glance, I can look at the whole month and make notes of important events or engagements for easier planning. Also, it looks nice and organized. Use real camerasYour smartphone is not a camera. There, I said it. Yeah, you can take photos with that device, but they aren’t going to be even half as nice as you could with a regular camera.
I’m not saying you have to invest in a film camera if you don’t want, but try switching to a digital camera, and you’ll be shocked at how much better your pictures turn out. Have an old-fashioned photo albumWhile I’m on a camera kick, having an old-fashioned photo album will always trump a digital one. Because, let’s be honest: how often do you really go back through your digital photo album and look at all those millions of photos? Instead, I think that we all ought to print out the best photos and make photo albums out of them. Keep the digital copies if you like, but having a book to look through is so much easier. Keep a handwritten journalJournaling is a wonderful practice, but I know it isn’t for everyone. However, I have tried both a digital and paper journal, and I always feel better after I’ve written in my journal.
Sometimes it’s silly things and sometimes it’s more serious, but either way having a hard copy that you can hold is way better than a digital one. Not to mention, you can put it by your bed as a constant reminder to write every night. Make bread by handStore bought bread simply cannot compare to homemade bread.
Now, I have no problem with breadmakers, although I think they tend to make the bread a little tough. But, if you don’t feel like messing with all the raising and kneading, then it’s a good compromise. Either way, old-fashioned homemade bread is where it’s at. Keep paper listsI’m a list maker, through and through. I’m not as bad as my mother (who has lists of her lists, all color-coded) but I do tend to write things out.
While I know there are apps for that, I have never found one that works as well for me. Something about the physicality of scratching things out as I complete them is just way more satisfying than tapping a screen. 10. CookI could wax poetic about how cooking is always better when it’s done the old-fashioned way. Food should not come out of a box, and ought to require more than water and a couple of eggs to be completed.
Cooking the old-fashioned way is not only cheaper, but also more healthy for you and your. Play board games. Modified by CombineZPNo matter how many online versions of Chess or Checkers there are, there is a dynamic that is always missing when compared to sitting down with friends and family to play a solid board game. Not only are there more options for conversation, but it’s just more fun! Do mathWhen I was a kid, I couldn’t even count how many times a math teacher told me, “you won’t always have a calculator on you” so I ought to learn whatever piece of math we were studying. Well, I have a smartphone.
Which means I DO have a calculator on me at all times. That being said, I think that memorization of math is definitely a skill that everyone ought to have.
You shouldn’t have to pull your phone out to calculate tax or do basic equations. Memorize phone numbersWith the digital age in full swing, so few people actually memorize numbers anymore. We’re all guilty of it. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to pull out my phone to look up a number to give to a friend or family member because I can’t remember it.
It’s embarrassing, and something I think we all ought to work towards. I mean, what happens when you don’t have your phone on you? Clean without chemicalsI have talked about it several times in the past, but today’s cleaning products are full of all kinds of chemicals, some of which are really hazardous for your health. Old-fashioned methods often worked just as well (most of the time even better) and didn’t involve things that are so harmful for yourself. Soda comes to mind as one of the super cleaners that no one seems to remember anymore.
Eat old-Fashioned ice creamLast (but certainly not least) old-fashioned ice cream. If you’ve ever had homemade ice cream, then you know that store-bought simply cannot compare.
Delicious, creamy, flavorful it’s the bee’s knees! I also think canning water is a good idea. I heard of it a colupe of years ago but still haven’t done it.
I know it does come in handy to have something to fill the space in the canner when you have a load that’s too small. But here’s a thought, why couldn’t you just bring the water to a boil, pour it into jars, put a clean but previously-used lid on top, and screw down the band? The heat of the boiling water is enough to make the jars seal and the water will be sterile because it has boiled. And that would fit well with the Mormon practice (which I hadn’t heard before) of filling a jar as soon as it’s been emptied and washed.
As far as keeping quality is concerned, I’d think water would be good practically forever, as long as the jar stayed sealed. It’s sterile, so there’s nothing in it to grow. True, it might taste a little flat after awhile but you could use it for external things like washing hair, etc.